Society puts a lot of pressure on women to be a supermom. You are supposed to be able to juggle a successful career, run a spotless household smoothly, voulenteer at your childs school and your community, attend church at least once a week, bake and cook homemade meals for your family, be a fantastic lover to your husband, and do all this with a brilliant smile while wearing a size two.( Ya, okay!)  Women were raised to be good little girls, accomodating, helpful and well- behaved. Somehow throughout the years women decided to take on both worlds, and try to do it perfectly. However, now it seemed like everyone was lining up waiting to be taken care of; husband, children, parents and the boss. As a result, anxiety, panic attacks, and depression has escalated. Being a supermom can be hazardous to your health.

If you are a supermom then you know what I mean. If you feel stressed, overwhelmed, tired, and sometimes unappreciated then you need to make some changes. Moms need to realize that they don’t have super powers and that being super doesn’t mean doing everything for everyone except for your self. Here are some tips that could help you. I know they will help me.

#1 Write down all your responsibilities and tasks. Figure out if these are things you can do alone or if you can get others to help. DO NOT be afriad to ask for help! ( That’s something I need to work on myself)

#2 Make a “to do” list for everyone in your family. Even your chidren can start to help when they’re old enough. ( My son is six and he likes to sweep, vaccuum, dry dishes, and help with the laundry) Don’t make excuses for them, they will feel good about themselves for helping.

#3 Take time for yourself, learn to pamper yourself. Whether it’s taking a relaxing bath, listening to music, taking a walk, reading a book, having a girls night, having a date night with your hubby, or going to a spa. ( Come see me at Elizabeth Grady :] ) DO NOT let yourself feel guilty, remember, you deserve it!

#4 Don’t be angry with yourself that your house isn’t perfectly clean, or that you haven’t made it to everyone of your childs school activity or event. You need to remind yourself that being a wonderful mom isn’t about being perfect, it’s about showing your child love and teaching them how to become responsible adults.

#5 Figure out what is important and get those things done by keeping an organized schedule. If small things don’t get done, don’t worry about. Basically, just let it go.

We do it to ourselves girls. I used to feel guilty all the time. I would feel guilty if I was just sitting and not cleaning my house, or if I cleaned my house and didn’t take time for myself, or if I was on the computer too long then I would feel like I’m neglecting my family, or if I was on the phone I would feel guilty but then I would feel guilty not calling my friends and family enough. AHHHHHHHHHHH !  I just try to constantly remind myself that it’s all about balance, and how you can balance everything in your life. Remember, to take care of yourself, let others help, and take time to relax your body and your mind.